A question that has been bothering me for past some time is why do people give up sometimes? A question that has eluded me for long.
Sometimes you just feel that all you did for so long was all in vain. Sometimes you are at such a stage in life that you get so disappointed that you feel like not moving forward. The disappointment can be through an event or a person but sometimes it penetrates you so deep that it uproots the basic philosophy of your life and you become so fragile that you begin asking yourself weather what you
did was correct or more importantly worth it.
There is a way of doing things and everyone has their own way. Sometimes you adapt a way of working and looking at things and your philosophy gets formed around that way. You work hard always according to that philosophy and you never compromise with it. Though you do not get instant results but you surely get a satisfaction because you are always true to yourself. This truth further strengthens your belief into the philosophy that you have adopted and you keep moving forward. You face a lot of problems in your path. But you never give up because you believe in yourself. You believe that whatever you are doing is the right path and hence you tackle those problems head on. Though those problems sometimes take a lot of toll on you but you are able to manage cause you are strong inside, cause your beliefs are strong.
But then one day after you have prevailed over a lot of problems, something happens and you are forced to ask yourself was it really worth it. This time the question is very potent and the best part is that you cannot say this time that obviously it was worth it. Your inner self tells you yes it was but when you look outside in the face of that something which happened a short while ago it becomes evident that you were wrong. You see that something that happened some time back questioning the basic philosophy and in turn the way you adopted long back.
And then because you do not have an answer you get disappointed. Not over that something that happened sometime back but over yourself. You realize that this time you are not sure. This time you cannot deal with it. This time you are fragile. This is something that you could never take. And then something happens, your belief system breaks down which in turn increases your disappointment. After a lot of analysis you find out that you can fight everything else but not this. But then at the same moment comes the realization that the disappointment has made you so weak internally that you cannot fight even the smallest impulses forget solving problems.
There are times when you are going through all this that you hear somebody else's problem. You listen to them out and find out that it is nothing compared to what you yourself are going through. But then you see their sad faces and realize that you have to do something. So you keep your disappointment aside and become temporarily this new person who knows how to solve problems and never gives up. Let me tell you something about this new temporary person. He is really hollow inside. On the face of him he is strong, fearless and logical but if you start peeking inside that temporary man you realize he is just a man. A man who can be disappointed who can give up.
But then again since this man is temporary so it never gives the other person to know more about him. Hence the fragility of this man never becomes evident. All this man does is give a great advice and then disappear. And then something happens, the sad face that you were working on becomes somewhat better and you realize the temporary man has done his deal again. All this does not reduce your disappointment but there is an additional feeling of satisfaction. Not a very good juxtaposition but this is what happens none the less.
So what do you do. All you can do is hope that things will get better. Remember "HOPE is the best of things".
Sometimes you just feel that all you did for so long was all in vain. Sometimes you are at such a stage in life that you get so disappointed that you feel like not moving forward. The disappointment can be through an event or a person but sometimes it penetrates you so deep that it uproots the basic philosophy of your life and you become so fragile that you begin asking yourself weather what you
did was correct or more importantly worth it.
There is a way of doing things and everyone has their own way. Sometimes you adapt a way of working and looking at things and your philosophy gets formed around that way. You work hard always according to that philosophy and you never compromise with it. Though you do not get instant results but you surely get a satisfaction because you are always true to yourself. This truth further strengthens your belief into the philosophy that you have adopted and you keep moving forward. You face a lot of problems in your path. But you never give up because you believe in yourself. You believe that whatever you are doing is the right path and hence you tackle those problems head on. Though those problems sometimes take a lot of toll on you but you are able to manage cause you are strong inside, cause your beliefs are strong.
But then one day after you have prevailed over a lot of problems, something happens and you are forced to ask yourself was it really worth it. This time the question is very potent and the best part is that you cannot say this time that obviously it was worth it. Your inner self tells you yes it was but when you look outside in the face of that something which happened a short while ago it becomes evident that you were wrong. You see that something that happened some time back questioning the basic philosophy and in turn the way you adopted long back.
And then because you do not have an answer you get disappointed. Not over that something that happened sometime back but over yourself. You realize that this time you are not sure. This time you cannot deal with it. This time you are fragile. This is something that you could never take. And then something happens, your belief system breaks down which in turn increases your disappointment. After a lot of analysis you find out that you can fight everything else but not this. But then at the same moment comes the realization that the disappointment has made you so weak internally that you cannot fight even the smallest impulses forget solving problems.
There are times when you are going through all this that you hear somebody else's problem. You listen to them out and find out that it is nothing compared to what you yourself are going through. But then you see their sad faces and realize that you have to do something. So you keep your disappointment aside and become temporarily this new person who knows how to solve problems and never gives up. Let me tell you something about this new temporary person. He is really hollow inside. On the face of him he is strong, fearless and logical but if you start peeking inside that temporary man you realize he is just a man. A man who can be disappointed who can give up.
But then again since this man is temporary so it never gives the other person to know more about him. Hence the fragility of this man never becomes evident. All this man does is give a great advice and then disappear. And then something happens, the sad face that you were working on becomes somewhat better and you realize the temporary man has done his deal again. All this does not reduce your disappointment but there is an additional feeling of satisfaction. Not a very good juxtaposition but this is what happens none the less.
So what do you do. All you can do is hope that things will get better. Remember "HOPE is the best of things".
